Sometimes I worry that I can’t tell the different between someone being nice and someone actually flirting with me. It really fucks me up and I worry if I’m wrong about it, it’ll get me into some kind of trouble somewhere along the line…
thaxted said: You are not the only one, that’s for sure. :(
killerteacell said: HOW CAN YOU EVEN TELL? Please share your wisdom with me if you ever unlock the secret. I have no clue whatsoever whether someone is flirty or just nice, and I also have no idea how to be clear when speaking. An “I’m flirting with you” card, maybe?
If you meet someone new and you end up talking for a while about stuff you like and body language seems to connect up all right, and then you exchange contact information, like, that seems pretty clear to me? (But I guess people just do that anyway to become friends?) Or at least clear enough for a follow-up since there is some sort of mutual interest? (This happened to me recently, and then after I followed up, this person said they weren’t interested in dating at the moment, which is totally cool and I’m not here to pressure anybody into anything, so I’m glad they said so - but I was so confused by it, since it seemed like they were interested earlier. But I guess people change their minds for whatever reasons too, and that’s okay.) I guess that’s where you find the risk, in the following up and reconnecting later.